Children

 

Trying to agree on what is ‘best for your children’ can give rise to significant conflict, especially when parents have their own agendas and often differing views on what that means in practice. Much as we would all hope that both parents would put their children first, sadly, this is not always the case.

 

It can also be a lengthy and difficult process for the courts to resolve. It is essential that you act carefully and pragmatically to try to move matters forward positively.There may be many reasons why you might need to apply to the courts to help ensure that the outcomes are indeed ‘best for your children’ and also that your children’s right to spend time and maintain a good relationship with you are not overlooked or frustrated.

 

You may have other concerns about your children’s welfare such as exposure to drug or alcohol abuse or violence. I can help guide you through these processes to ensure that you are in the strongest possible position to continue to make a full and positive contribution to your children’s lives and that they are safeguarded as far as possible from any potential danger.

 

If you are unable to reach agreement with the other side, the courts should be able to assist you in working these matters through so that everyone, especially your children, are able to move on and adjust to the new circumstances. However, careful and considered guidance is of great importance when making applications for child arrangements so that your arguments are clear, well thought out and logical. Although processes can be lengthy and often arduous, your time in front of the Judge can be all too short. It is essential that you use this time very wisely and do not miss opportunities to improve your outcomes by failing to make timely and considered interventions.

 

Having a knowledgeable McKenzie Friend with you in court can ensure you understand what is going on in amongst all the ‘legalese’, that your arguments are clear and deliver the maximum impact and that you remain focussed on your objectives. It is easy to lose sight of the goal when your ‘ex’ or their barrister is trying to undermine you or trying to paint you as something you are not. Separation and divorce can certainly bring out the worst in some people.

 

I can help you keep your emotions in check; stick to the well thought out objectives and not become riled by the other side. Judges are far more likely to be impressed by parents who are calm, considered, thoughtful, logical and respectful than those who like to engage in petty arguments and needless point scoring which is unlikely to demonstrate the desirable qualities of a 'good' parent.Court procedures to reach agreement on child arrangements can take several hearings which sometimes only result in incremental steps which are monitored by agents of the court such as Cafcass before moving to the next step. I can advise you at each step of the way to ensure that things continue to move forwards in a manner that is acceptable for you.